Thoughts on the Yonagatsuki
Ono Karori
The sunrise gets later and the nights become longer in September.
Summer doesn't need to wake up yet... I was getting angry at my child for interrupting my alone time.
Days have passed since I woke up my son by yelling at him when it's time to wake up.
As I watch the children, whose bodies are honestly showing signs of being affected, I realize that this is the rhythm of nature.
This month not only marks the birthdays of my second and third daughters, but also my husband and I's wedding anniversary, which I always manage to forget.
Utsushiki, which began on the new moon of September 13, 2015, is now entering its 10th year.
In traditional Chinese medicine, the emotions (five feelings) that correspond to the autumn season are said to be "sadness" and "melancholy."
It's still hot in Kyushu, and maybe because there are so many events coming up, I don't feel sad.
I'm kinda busy.
It's nice that the weather has cooled down a little. This is a happy season, and such feelings increase.
We are now in our 14th year of marriage.
After the anniversary, I wish I had gone out to eat something delicious.
I sometimes think it would have been nice to go to places I don't usually go to.
Before that, I want to remind you.
This year too, I was reminded by LINE messages from my seniors and laughed with the children, saying, "Oh, that's right."
The other day I heard a story about a couple who, after decades of marriage, no longer apologize to each other even for small mistakes.
It is easier to apologize if there is distance between you and the other person, but it is harder to apologize if there is a close relationship.
Our daily relationships are not just about the facts of the past, but also about emotions and past events.
Things can get complicated.
Sure, there are lots of scenes like that...
I want to cherish greetings, responses, and words of thanks between family members.
Even if you are trying hard, there may be things you cannot do or find difficult to do.
When you get angry or say too much to your child,
Even though I feel bad, somewhere in my heart I tend to think, "My child will forget about it soon."
In fact, surprisingly, children tend to remember a lot by the time they are around 3 years old.
"I'm sorry I was too nice earlier."
"That was a strong statement, I'm sorry"
When I tell them this after a while, even a child who was crying and angry before will start telling me how he or she feels.
Even if I don't understand the meaning, even if I make excuses
It's important to talk, and I think taking the time to do so will help build trust.
It's a little harder to say this to my eldest son who is in junior high school.
The unpleasant remarks that were obviously made out of anger towards the younger child.
By the time they reach junior high school, they have become calm and realize that their parents' comments are emotional and just a way of venting their anger.
It's hard to apologize in a situation like this,
I try to be brave and apologize, without relying on the idea that people will forgive me because I'm a child.
The five of them will soon reach adolescence, and small conversations like greetings, thanks, and apologies will be
I would like to treat each of them with the belief that we should respect each other and develop affection for each other.
In raising a family
I don't think that all the words I say are my true feelings,
Just because we are close doesn't mean we don't have to be careful.
It's important to have an environment where you can show your true colors,
Even a family is made up of relationships.
I want to have a relationship where we can respect each other regardless of age.
On our wedding anniversary, the day we celebrated our 13th year as a family, I once again thought about this.
Being able to spend time with not only my family, but also my coworkers and everyone I meet at Utsushiki
A rare and precious blessing
I hope that today will be filled with many words of gratitude, including "thank you."
Well, this week on September 13th, Utsushiki will be celebrating its 9th anniversary.
The Ono Tomohiro exhibition begins on Saturday, and there will also be a cafe event over the weekend for the first time in several months.
I hope we can share the joy of being here together again on our 9th anniversary.
Thank you as always.
Thank you for your continued support.
